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Never get attached to anyone

This may sound like a load of bull crap to you or maybe it'll even look like a some teenager who's cribbing about His last  relationship breakup. I'm just jotting out the thoughts or lessons which I've learnt from my past experiences here.  It may even help you if you can apply in your life.  
Never get attached to anyone.

I, sometimes feel pity for the people who deliberately let their happiness be dependent on some other person, feeling happy is not a choice anymore but a necessity, you have to strive hard to make yourself comfortable, it’s sort of a commitment that you have to fulfill daily.

“No attachment” to any person whatsoever is the key to emotional strength and happiness; there is no one, I repeat, no one worthy enough to affect you internally.

Unattachment and indifference will always make you stable and better will-powered. A person who can control his emotions at his will, i.e., having the remote to switch his feelings on and off is the strongest and the calmest person you would find around you, similar to the tree which has the deepest roots gets least effected in a storm.

Also, one has to understand that everyone around you is temporary and is bound to get away from you in the future (maybe except parents), so why to get attached and regret later, a counter-question can be thrown that “attachment is necessary because as human beings, we need partners, close people to share everything.”

To this, I would clarify that I didn’t mean to be socially introvert all your life and not build connections, hell no, in fact, in reality, it’s precisely the opposite for having a successful corporate career (I learned it quite late), what I mean is build networks, have close friends but don’t get emotionally dependent on them for your well-being, one should be hard enough to have an underlying feeling of the possibility of them suddenly disappearing or not being available in your life, this will make you immensely composed and emotionally-independent.

 
                                                                                                                                   - Arun Vijay


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